Teenagers with psychasthenic accentuation, as a rule, do not maintain an impossible burden of responsibility that leads to the formation of long-standing neurotic reactions or decompensation of psychasthenic type. Adolescents with hysteroid accentuation object custody soon begins to cause hate and aggression, such as an older child to younger. Based on practical observations can be identified
several types of inadequate parental (parent) relationship to the child.
1. The ratio of mother to son, a teenager as a "substitute" to her husband: the requirement of active attention to his worries, obsessive desire to be constantly society's son, to be aware of his intimate life, a desire to limit his contacts with peers. Mother complained of the absence of contact with his son, his desire to dissociate itself from it, his "contempt". In a less crude form, such an attitude, as already indicated, results in assigning the status of a teenager, "the head of the family."
2. Overprotective and symbiosis: the obsessive desire to hold, to tie to his child, deprive him of his independence from the fear of possible future unhappiness with the child. In this case, an understatement of real abilities and potentialities of the child leads parents to seek to maximize the control and limitation. Parents have a desire to do everything for him, to protect about the dangers of life, live life for the child, "which essentially means" strikethrough a real child, child development stagnation, regression and fixation on the primitive forms of communication for o6especheniya symbiotic relationships with them.
3. Educational control through the deliberate deprivation of love: the unwanted behavior (such as disobedience), poor school achievement or inaccuracy in the home shall be punishable by that child or young person demonstrates that "he is not needed, this mom does not like." In this case, the parents just do not express dissatisfaction with the child, the inadmissibility of such behavior does not demonstrate a clear negative feelings they are experiencing due to the bad behavior of the child. With him not to talk, he emphasized ignored, saying the child in the third person - as an absent. |