In hyperintimate teens, such an attitude creates a feeling of impotent rage and anger, outbursts of destructive aggression. During these outbreaks is the desire to prove their existence, to infiltrate the family, "we" through. In this case, a parent comes to the world because of fear of aggression or aggression by the respondent (blows, strokes) is trying to overcome, and also create a wall of alienation. Such behavior of parents of children with sensory generates a deep feeling of uselessness, loneliness. In an effort to return the parental love, the teenager is forced
restrict their own individuality, sacrificing self-esteem, losing his own self. Obedience is achieved at the cost of depreciation of the "I" preserve the primitive attachment.
4. Educational control by calling the feeling of guilt: a child who violates the prohibition, with her parents read as "ungrateful", "Who gave parental love", "delivering his mom so much grief," "leading up to heart attacks and so on. The development of self tied up constant fear of the teenager be to blame for troubles parents, relations of dependence.
In recent years, the psychology is rapidly developing the idea of a strong biological condition of parental feeling. For a successful "run" the biological basis of maternal essential three factors - sensitive period, the key stimuli and imprinting. It is believed that the mother has maternal sensitive period - the first 36 hours after birth. If during this time the mother presents the possibility of direct communication with the newborn, the so-called contact skin-skin ", the mother appears psychological imprint on the child, an intimate emotional relationship with a child is formed faster, often more meaningful and profound. Further studies of those families where there has been lost sensitive period of maternity, show, that the behavior of mothers was calm and loving, the children were significantly more smiling. |