| Very acute conflicted attitude toward teenager, especially if the family is still a young child: parents generally tend to overestimate the advantages of the younger, against which the disadvantages of a teenager - real and imagined - are perceived by parents as intolerable. Recourse to psychologists, such parents often wait for confirmation from the consultant that their child is really bad, you need to re-educate, to heal can be cast in a boarding school. Rejection or emotional rejection is particularly dramatic for both single-parent families where the mother pursues the fear that the child plays the undesirable traits of his father - "I'm afraid that will affect the genes." Great importance for creating a particular style of communication with children in the family have a social and cultural traditions. Parents and other adults can influence the formation of the "I-image and self-esteem of the child, not only inspiring his own image of the child and their attitude towards him, but also" arming "of the child to specific grades and standards of performance of certain actions, private, and more common goals worth striving for, the ideals and standards to which should be equal, plans to be implemented. If these objectives, plans, standards and assessment are realistic, then, reaching goals, implementing plans to meet standards, the child or adolescent, as well as later the adult, increases self-esteem and creates a positive "I-image", if the plans and targets are unrealistic , standards and requirements too high, that is, both exceed the capacity and strength of the subject, the failure leads to loss of faith in itself, a loss of self esteem. In the practice of family therapy often there are cases that demonstrate how parents form expectations and level of aspiration, "the ideal self and achievement motivation. |